Baby Shower List Of Gifts

How have Baby Shower(me with gifts)s become the norm?

I’m prego and I don’t want a shower. I know Baby Showers can be fun but it doesn’t seem right to me. I like the idea of having a party to celebrate a new life, but the mandatory gift giving seems selfish. I mean you are inviting all these people and expecting them to give you gifts from a list you give them without their asking! I think if people actually wanted to give you anything they wouldn’t require a party to do it and if they didn’t want to get anything useless they would ask you for ideas. And sending individual invitations is basically feeding off of peoples’ kindness-they are going to go, with a gift, so you don’t think bad about them.
Have you ever felt this way about Baby Showers? And if you’ve had one/several did you honestly feel right about taking all the free stuff you told people to get?

I am the only one out of my friends who have not had a Baby Shower so far. Most of them have said they will just give me a little something extra when bub comes along.

I do think Baby Showers have gotten out of hand and very expensive. They use to be a simple thing where people spent a small amount on maybe just a baby singlet or a pack of face washes etc as a good luck gesture but now a days the more people seem to spend the more they look like better friends.

I am not in to all the attention either and like you say, if people want to give you a gift they will anyway.

Do YOU DoWaZu???