Baby Shower Etiquette Emily Post
Etiquette: What’s More Important?
So, here’s an interesting little opinion question. I wanted to know what’s more important to you: following the etiquette rules set by people like Emily Post OR following the etiquette rules of your region/culture.
It seems that a lot of people are always discussing etiquette rules in the section. It seems most of the time, people disagree because of regional differences. For example, in the South it’s common to do a Dollar Dance. But, in the North, it’s considered rude. Another one is who hosts the shower. I’ve been to both bridal and Baby Showers hosted by mothers. That seems normal around here. Yet, a lot of other people say it’s rude and not done where they live.
I’m just interested in which one you tend to side with and why? Also, add an example if you can.
I’m in favour of a balance between the two but I think that sometimes etiquette needs to bend for tradition and vice versa. I’m also a fan of the school that says the two go hand in hand and if it’s tradition in one culture then it isn’t a breach of etiquette in that culture.
Take the dollar dance. Never heard of it in my culture (more or less British) and never seen it done at any of my cousins weddings. BUT I’m friends with a lot of Polish people and at the wedding of a friend’s sister there was a money dance. I wasn’t offended because I knew that it was their tradition and I knew that I wasn’t expected to participate. There was nobody with a gun to my head saying “Pay!”. And all those guests who took part were happy to take part.
I think that it’s sad when traditions get lost because people are afraid of maybe offending other people. Those who would be offended should look at it as a chance to see and appreciate another culture. We live in a large world and most etiquette books tend to be decidedly Western/ American in their views.
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