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My mom had a favorite saying: Fill up your love bucket. She used this any time one of us felt down or grouchy and seemed bent on attacking those around us to solve the trauma and drama of the day. These simple words most often worked, although sometimes I was forced to grumble just a little since it is hard to admit that Mom is always right.

Mom also had the gift of working these words in at just the right moment, when I was most susceptible to really hearing her words, understanding her intent, and then making my world right again through them. She never said the words tritely. When my heart was broken and my life in turmoil she knew that the love would trickle in if she just supported me as I struggled to contend. If however, I was behaving like a sobbing (and spoiled baby) she let me know that it was time to knock it off and open the floodwaters to refill my bucket more quickly for the sake of us all.

A Bucket List has come to represent goals and dreams to aim for and complete within this limited span of time called life. Parachuting, scuba diving, voyages to the Galapagos, or running a marathon may fall onto this list. Writing a book, strolling along the beach, or reflecting each day on everything that is good could be there too. All things that we wish to do, to accomplish can be jotted onto your personal Bucket List. I now realize that each of those items also will fill me with warmth and excitement so I guess my bucket list will also be replenishing my bucket with love.

I interpret a Bucket List as a way of making my life feel complete. We each have finite days and hours to live, it seems appropriate to have goals in mind and to determine ways to reach them. Having goals gives purpose to each day and purpose adds quality to life. I believe that it also adds longevity since setting and reaching my dreams fills me with love and energy which combine to provide me with more drive, ambition, and more goals.

Goals do not have to be enormous or expensive – although they may be and that is rather fun too. I loved our cruise to Alaska, I look forward to many adventures in our motor home, and I am pretty thrilled with my home improvement plans. All of these are worthwhile and will give me comfort and joy, but there are also many little things that are equally as powerful and far less expensive.

Long ago I had a ridiculous fight with my very dear friend. We had been roommates – something that rarely works out with best girlfriends and argued over a power bill and who ate the butter. This afternoon I will write her a note of reconciliation and send it to her mom to forward to her since I no longer know where she lives. She may read it and respond, she may not, but my bucket just became a bit richer just making this plan.

When my dad died suddenly I was just nineteen, still an ornery teen full of myself. I wasn’t really naughty but I wasn’t particularly nice. I never told him how much I loved him or thanked him for the role model he had set for me. I will fill my bucket today and every day hereafter by performing at least one act of extra kindness to friends or the unknown. The dog may get an extra walk, my sisters may receive special notes of appreciation, or the next person in line at the grocery store may find $10 off her total bill. My bucket is growing fuller with each act, even with each thought of a kind deed.

My children each know that I love them but I am going to expand it a bit more. I could shower them with gifts and purchase great trips but I recognize that what they most need is me. They don’t need me bugging them or offering parental advice; they do need me to listen and care. I can do that. And my bucker will be wealthier as a result. In fact before too long it will be brimming and I may need to add a bucket or two.

Now some of the love bucket spills from time to time. Rough moments take a toll as do rough people who demand too much. To maintain my wish of a bountiful bucket, I must work to keep it that way. I have discovered in the past that the more I add to my bucket, the better and more powerful it becomes. That makes it all right to share some bucket love with others, that is, to expend time and energy on them because as a result, good things will return to me. Visualize a bucket that sometimes leaks, sometimes slops, but most often it is filled to the top. That will be my goal. Imagine the joy this will bring. How is your bucket looking?

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Guy meets girl dates for 8 months,girl gets pregnant,boy asks girl to marry him,she says yes however one?

month later she changes her mind and dumps him.(breaks his heart) He is a really neat Guy During the time he found out she was pregnant and asked her to marry him. He starting working 3 jobs to make a better life for them(while attending school) She was spoiled didnt have enough time together and such. Now she won’t talk to him and if there is any communication she emails and tell him what he has to buy for the baby or that he is crap because he hasnt bought his share. He asked his Aunts advice I told him that because she had chose the road she had that his responsiblility was to be there for the baby and to pay child support, supplying her with items for her home was and should be at her cost.He needed to get his home Dad ready too. Was I wrong to give this advice. We are thinking about having a Baby Shower for him. His biggest fear, she wont let him see the baby.
Note….she is under 18 and he is just barely over 18.
Advice would be highly appreciated and what would you do?

well
they both had the sex
so outside of US law, it is both of their responsibility, financially and everything else-ly.
He is working 3 jobs. She needs to get off of her ass and get some jobs, too. Nobody knew that they would have the child, but the facts of life is when you have sex, you get babies. Reproduction. So she needs to stand up and face her responsibilities of being a new mother, like he is doing as being a new father, getting the 3 jobs.
And she needs to stop trying to use people, to get money for the baby
and play with people’s feelings, to manipulate them, so she can control them, to get money for the baby
Whether she’s scared of the new responsibility, or not, it’s her responsibility as well, And he was not “wrong”, or has “sinned”, to have helped to conceive this baby. he is a human being, as she is too, he should be treated no less than a human being.

He definitely doesn’t need to be in a relationship with her now, with her treating him this way after she conceived. Now the cards are on the table. How do you know what cards he was playing with, when he was *in* the relationship? You don’t. But it’s too late for that now. You need to focus on the present. She’s treating him like sh**.

If there is a chance she may try to prevent him from seeing the baby, you need to get you a lawyer and find out your legal rights as the dad (the boy does). It might be a good idea to read up on that anyway, and child support issues.

and you know what, yeah he’s 18 and she’s under, so what. The deed is done. Outside of court and whatever else that may happen, stay prayerful and try to think with a mature and responsible mind, because despite these facts, these two have still got a baby between them to take care of.

Child Support will probably prevent him from being able to get his own apartment or anything else.
Getting stuff for the baby will make her pockets empty and maybe her parents’ too, but maybe she can get government assistance, and most moms do get WIC.

I’d tell him to not let her take advantage of him, and keep a log (yes, a LOG) with information on what he bought, and what date, and how much it costed. So that she can’t ever say what he didn’t do, didn’t get, etc.

and stay friends with the government I repeat, despite he was over 18 and she was under. Because if she tries something funny, like moving away or something, or even if she doesn’t but stays, you may have to fight for visitation.